Guys what makes you like a girl

It helps a lot and I enjoyed reading it. He said he really like me, he enjoys tine with me and hsving a deep intimacy. We really love our compsny. He like to be touched and he is very loving caring. After that we seldom chat only hi hello. Take care. One day he send me sms that. So he asked politely if we can stop seeing each other for a while. But he still askibg me sms greetings etc. Sp he asked if he can cpme to see me and stay a night or longer spend time together. But end of the sms saying it might be the last time i see u…..

When he came over we had a great time together watch movie, walk on the beach, kara oke , he really feel relaxed and we really enjoyed our company. He even sms me that he slways enjoyed time with me. Im beautiful , caring ;good lovet and gentle person. But im confused about lnot seeong me again. Helpful reply for me too.

I came off the dating sites. Began focusing on the things that bring me joy. I was in a meeting the last time he came in but my colleague said he was asking after me and he gave her his business card without specifically saying it was for me but that if we need anything not to hesitate.

I happen to need some turf on my garden one of his services so I did text him saying so. Thanks for the great article. Your article is spot on ,everything you said about how man wants to win, how you have to support him ,be his cheerleader lol by that he will open up and he does open up to which i really like ,cos i want to bond with him and i want to know things that no one else knows! I will share this with my listeners and friends. I do get your point.

Well I have this guy wherein he discovered that I had a crush on him. I had been denying it until after a month, out of curiosity, I asked him how he felt when he learned the truth. We agreed that we should get to know each other further first. I agree with him. If I really assess what I truly feel, I also feel pressured having a relationship right off the bat, so I agree that we need to get to know each other further. I want enjoy being his friend and I want him to be my friend.

Just plain inspiration for each other. I just want the friendship to become a little sturdier. I appreciate any comment from your end.

This is a very enlightening article and I truly appreciate the author for composing it. I have a question I hope you could help me with. I really like this guy and have asked him to hang out with me.

He has shown sings of liking me back and has said to love and hang out with me. Now i know he is for a fact very busy and has cancelled because he wants to be engaged and not tired when hanging out with me. I give him space without being needy but i would like to know where i stand with him.

The thing is that another guy has asked me out for a date. Also am not going to sit around and wait for him to make time. Will it ruin my chance or not? Should i confront him with not making an effort and take time for us hang out? I respect his space and know the importance of it to guy. By the way Eric. He stays away from me mostly because he says he respescts me too much to hurt me because he says he is extremely attracted to me and if we are alone he may want sex, we have an amazing chemistry, we know each other for ten months but dating for five months.

He wants to marry me next year and is building our home which he says is mine. Just hearing my voice is enough for his body to be in chaos. He stays away from me because he doesnt want to mess me up or himself.

Do u think I should let him stay away for the most part or should we treat it like a long distance relationship. Help me please. We also work for the same company but in different areas.

Sadly my last relationship after 6 years fell apart 2 years ago, for multiple reasons.. He is a lads lad, lovesssss sport, loves entertaining and making sure everyone else has a good time.

But I think he is actually quite depressed right now. I hate seeing him so sad and frustrated? This article mirrors a guy in my life at the moment. We had and generally tend to have these intense discussions where I get to delve deeper into his fabric and the strands that make him who he is. I also am terrified that he may get to know me at such depth and not want me. He seems afraid to escalate things for fear of rejection. I know exactly how he feels. How do i make sure that he realises how I feel and give him the confidence to know that I like him without taking advantage of his vulnerability.

So why not do the same and open yourself to him? As long as you make him feel that it is completely ok to be vulnerable, he would never feel that way. Your article is absolutely amazing and I really appreciate you taking the time to share this information!! Love love love this article. Thank you!!! Makes a lot of sense. Really appreciate your efforts here. All the best. Thank you for not sugar-coating the truth! Wish I would have read this a month sooner..

Is make-up a must? I enjoyed your perspective on what a man needs from a woman…definitely a game changer…Inspiring. I like your view on letting him know he is winning! My POV inspire him to know he is doing his best and encourage him and be that positive woman that he has put his time, effort and energy into winning.

Do this because you truly want him and see that added happiness with him. How did I do with understanding? I would like your feedback.

I want to know that I am understanding where you are coming from. Wow wonderful article clear insite. Thanks for the insight.

I do see a relationship in the future and I hope that he sees one as well. Excellent article, thank you for the information. It explains alot of what has gone wrong in my past relationships.

It also points me towards the areas I need to improve. I really enjoy reading the articles on ANM especially how both you and Sabrina are direct instead of candy-coating the tough issues. Thats the great article I have read so far.

First of all thank you for sharing this. Well, my scenario is quite complicated. There was my ex who broke up with me in 2 months because we were studing in different cities and moreover I wasnt much romantic and flirter with him, more into study and fun. That broke up has a long effect on me that i never able to overcome from him till now, its been 6 years almost.

We are still in touch with each other since our break-up. He told me, he went through guilt for an year of hurting my sentiments but never told me the reason exactly.

Anyway, after that broke up, in my class, I made a best friend who was guy, we were best buddies, and my ex used to visit me whenever he come to home which is in my city where I study. He made efforts to came and meet me up. I used to meet him, then I went to aborad for my exchange studies, there I got to know my best friend was getting married.

I got devasted by that news, bcz he was the only friend who was close to my heart. I called my ex to ask him out for marriage, which he denied it completely, but always flirty over phone, share his guitar and listening to music with me. I got frustrated bcz there I wasnt able to move on in my life bcz of this ex who is somewhere on my head and heart everytime.

Finally, I asked my best friend to marry me. He told me to come back from exchange program to marry him, which I denied it bcz I cant marry in the middle of my studies, I told him, i started looking him as a potential mate and lets get settle first and then think about marry. Anyone, that plan didnt work, when I came back to my country after an year, this ex showing interest in me, but I thought of moving out specially when I am seeing my best friend going away from my life who was closed to my heart more than anyone else.

There my friend got engaged with some girl, I went through massive emotional turmoil of my friend leaving me, then this ex came and had physical intimacy twice with me no sex, only a little make out. I was emotionally not stable at that time, bcz I was broken with my friend engagement with whom I wanna marry to. This best friend of mine later called me from the city he lived in which is another city than I live in. This friend cried over phone that he made a mistake of choosing that girl who his parents choosed for him.

I became emotionally senisitive towards him, went to his city to meet him. There i told my friend who knew my ex my ex also knew about my friend about the make out session happened between me and ex bcz of emotional turmoil of his marriage news.

I was going through massive emotional rollar coster ride, there i connect with my ex again and told him how I am thinking to get marry to my friend bcz u r not serious for me. This ex after listening to this, again made out with me, and I wasnt able to stop him, as if my mind became numb or something.

I was going through so much emotions that I was unable to stop anyone. There, my friend marriage date was coming near, all arrangement was going on and despite his no to parents, still things was working out for marriage. There I was unable to stop myself and bursted out to both ex and friend that i made out with both of them. There my ex was calming me down by saying it why i disclosed it to friend, its just moments which I should not let him know and forget.

At the end, my friend got married, ex continued kissed and hug me to the time I rudely disconnect cords with him. Wne tthrough sucidal thoughts and all. Now I dont wanna talk about a friend bcz his chapter is closed for ever.

But this ex, continues come and go in my life. For few months we dont talk, and when I start talking, everytime it leads to little physical intimacy.

I told him many times, that I am not interested in friends with benefit but he kept having me. Final blast come, when my only parent i. I asked him directly will he marry me, he stright forwardly said NO, bcz he wanted to concentrate in his career, and dont want me to wait for him bcz he is not interested to marry me or any girl. He is only passion is to start his own business. Now its been 8 months of my mother. We sometimes go out for dinner, he shares his guitar playing or music with me.

I mostly initiate the call and he reciprocate time to time, sometimes completely ignores me, sometimes shows care towards me. Now we are not even intimated from last months n so.

He listen me sometimes when I shared my vulnerabiltiy and cry for mother, I used to listen him sometimes bcz he only comes in contact with me sometimes he shares his vulnerabilty of failure of his business plan, looking for job, going through financial crunches, still he sometimes take out time to spend with me outside dinner and tea.

The other thing is, I know who his friends are but never met anyone personally, neither I met his family till now , its been 8 years of more we know each other. He mostly met with my friends, even on my mother demise, came to my home, seen all my relatives, but I havent met any of his contact in these 8 years.

As we did our graducation from same college so I know few of his classmates, who is his still friends. I know his other friends bcz he keep telling me about them. What you think, where I am going with this ex? He clearly said me NO when times I asked him for marriage, neither we are in relationship nor he loves me. He just say, he likes me or respect me for what I am.

What should I need to do? I am unable to compelty cut the cords, neither I can see myself like this. I thought of less take step back, and be friends only, I did tried to or still we both try that, but for me its quite tough, as I know my heart still goes for him.

I really wanna end all these confusion and get out of this. Either we both should be together or I completly move on from him and just be friend with him. After mom, I rarely have friends left, not even I consider any relatives as my family, only one bro who is not well. In short I am alone, and this guy is the one I respect and adore the most. But sometimes, I just hate him for putting me on hold.

I feel like this is tricking the guy into being with you. Why does getting a guy to like you so complicated? And as far as market value goes… how is that complicated? Probably one of the best articles into the male psyche I have ever read. Best compliment I can bestow. Brilliant article. Thank you for the logic. Hi Eric, My bf and I lived together for 6 years during which time his drinking and crazy behavior escalated. He moved out 3 years ago.

He wanted to come back but I needed time to heal. By the time I healed he had lost feelings for me. For the following 6 months leading up to now, I acted like a nut.

Mostly his FB posts made me crazy and the female friends he was making. I still wanted to work it out and so I off and on depending on different things and behaviors acted very badly.

We hooked up a few times off and on and he was still interested in doing that. I wonder if I caused that to happen. Now I am just backing off completely. He told me throughout and after our relationship that I was what he had always wished for. Do you see any way towards a future for us? We really did love each other and had a really great relationship outside the stuff I mentioned before. And, I was the best I had ever been in a relationship. We had love, respect, trust.

Hard to believe now at the 10 year mark we are likely to never be together again. What can you tell me? Any chance he will remember me the way he knew me to be before and want it again? Thanks so much for responding. Excellent, honest, empowering and doable advice. Thank you!! I have a question, if you can get to it. Im crazy about a guy but on our 2nd and last date, I was just acting weird—cold and distant, trying to not let him see how much I liked him.

Is there anything I can do now to fix this or undo it? I want to tell him I was not myself that night and ask him to give me another chance. Is this a good idea, or is it too much me pursuing him? Then, you second-guess yourself and think you screwed it up. If you trace it back, do you see this cycle underneath how things played out for you? Do you see it as how your actions came about and why you acted the way that you did?

You want them, so you fantasize about how great it would be to have them. Then you grow attached to that fantasy… and then you fear that the bubble will be burst in reality, so you make some move because of your fear. It is a natural unfolding of connection that comes as a byproduct of your enjoyment of each other. It would be so great to have this friend! Oh no, what do I do?! It all comes down to this: Are you able to be OK right now… as you are… where you are… how you are?

Can you be OK where you are at this moment? Or… will you be like the majority of the people in our society… who feel like they need something outside of themselves to be OK? A new relationship? To have a baby? To buy a house? To get a cool car? To buy something? I really love this response. Over and over again I meet guys who i really like. I create a fantasy of our perfect life together and as soon as I get excited about them, they stop calling.

Then I freak out and go over every detail of the date wonder what little thing I did that made them go from being really into me, to not texting me. Ok, so I understand that the problem is that I have this fantasy and I really like the guy. I have hobbies and a social life, but I would still really love a boyfriend. Wow, this is me! My question is where can I find more literature on this topic? The part about the maintaining in an overall inner peaceable state, is a useful observation of human-to-human interaction.

Thanks for honest relationship advice. You are clearly a smart man! Love what you said about market value. Learning your worth and value is so important. This is so helpful to see the impact of this. Hello Eric, Thank you for all of your relationship advice. I have someone that loves, respects, and is always there for me.

This article convinced me to live in the moment and enjoy every minute of it. Thanks again! Best regards, Rose. Hi Eric Im from Iran, I read your websites and articles by accident. But it was a great accident. At the same time My boy friend broke up with me and I could concure with my feeling with reading your articles. I also suggest your articles to my friends and every one i knew. I want to Thank you for opening my eyes to a new world. Ive had two bad relationships, and honestly want something really casual with this guy from work I think is cute.

Im also about to move cross country, and dont want a long distance relatiohip. I asked a guy friend to do some asking for me, and my friend said my crush reacted surprised but happy when my friend told him I liked him.

He said sure, yes, pulled out his phone and I just handed him my cell number. Im very new to all this, so what should I do? Ill see him at work tomorrow and dont want it to be awkward.

In that scenario, is it okay to tell him I dont feel comfortable doing anything behind kissing right now? My past two relationships abused me in this area, and I dont want to scare him off with messiness or by being too prudish. Sincerest thanks, Eric! I have a question. You mention that women should not neglect to wear make-up to help themselves look their best. But I do want to look attractive for a man. Can you offer guidance on what style of make-up most normal men find attractive?

Natural vs Bold? Dark eyeliner? Bright red lipstick vs more subdued tones? Smokey eyes? The best evidence for what men find most attractive is found in looking in places that have an exclusively male audience. In this day and age, I would not look at mainstream media at all for guidance in what men find attractive. I would have the same advice for men, by the way…. So start there and I think you will be amazed at how different you find what men want versus what women-oriented media tells you.

They have no political agenda they want to indoctrinate you with. With regards to androgeny… and this is not a political or social statement… it is biologically sexually repellant to look non-female. If you like the androgynous look and you want it for yourself, more power to you. Go for it. In fact, there are some guy friends of mine that love women with the androgynous look.

Just like there are some guys I know that love a woman with tattoos or any other presentation you can imagine. And, again, I have to emphasize you should focus on the NICHE of men you want to attract — pro-Athletes on average tend to like one type of woman… nerdy punk rock rebel type guys tend to prefer another… musicians tend to prefer another… and so on, so forth.

I can only tell you the best place to look — one free of corporate motivations and political-agendas. Hope it helps and good luck! Thanks a lot Eric. This article has really enlightened me now I know what my man wants. Thanks again. He is also probably testing if your sense of humor matches because according to another study , a compatible sense of humor is crucial for long-term relationships.

Be careful though. You find it flattering that someone could actually remember what you said three months ago or what you wore last week. He also remembers almost everything you tell him, especially the things you love and hate. Sometimes, in his attempt to get your attention, he might even choose an angry emoji just to be different from everyone else.

They either get instantly quiet or they nudge the guy or they change the topic quickly. He does this because he wants to make you smile in little ways.

Most of all, it will make him feel good. He wants to be the center of attention. The hero instinct is when a guy tries to take care of you and be your sort of savior. I guess it is just what it is. Someone makes a joke about him? He laughs and gives the other guy a high five… then he looks at you.

Good communication is something many people want. Every couple needs it to make a relationship stronger and much better. Man often craves for women who can listen better and can just laugh at every joke they tell. It means she listens well and appreciates the man for his efforts to make her laugh. It just means she is confident in wearing such clothes. Women may have a curvy body, or a slim body, or even a sexy body with everything a man fantasizes about. There are just so many body shapes and sizes!

Most men can share their fantasies with confidence with their partners but some are still afraid to talk about them. Nowadays most of the couples who are dating cuddle often to enjoy each other bodies and feel relaxed and think about nothing else but love. Who show their femininity with pride and appear to be enjoying what she wants and needs. Men really enjoy talking romance with women.

And when women can manage and talk the same is just out of this world. Imagine being cheesy to your woman and she replies with the same cheesiness. Just think about it. Women who are grateful and appreciative make them a person that is liked by everyone in the world. A woman who can teach a man how to build confidence, how to love himself, how to act and speak properly and think about the future that can be obtained through visions and dreams is something extraordinary.

Women are mature when they are even so very young and can think far in the future or plan ahead unlike men. Women inspire you to think about endless possibilities that you can achieve by being not afraid and having more focus on things that are more important. A woman that can play instruments and make music is such a fascinating thing.

Everyone loves music all over the world and music is a language that everyone can speak and understand. Men enjoy dating women who can play music. Because they are that much interested in this quality.

Men like women who are creative. Who can turn ordinary things into extraordinary! Who thinks outside the box and are not afraid of limitless and endless thoughts. Men often find themselves lacking confidence. What they need is a morale boost, having confidence in themselves and to be a better and healthy person.

Men come across as weak when they have no confidence but why worry when your woman can believe in you. Every man loves sexy women. But men often differentiate on what makes a woman sexy? Every man has a different taste. For example, wearing a naughty dress is what most men really like to see.

Or it can be just her simple laugh or her needy side or like how she is playful when you sweet talk with her. What I mean is, her sexiness can be anything and that anything is something that men want. Men or women, all make mistakes. What matters is to have a big heart that wants to forgive. WE matter. Us matter. There is no ME in relationships. Communication is key in every relationship. A woman is your best friend when you are her boyfriend. She is your everyone and everything.

Her feelings, her friends, her feminine side just about everything. She gives you her soul. And men want that so badly. They want to know more and feel interested and more confident about sharing his mind too. It all makes sense when there is proper communication. In life, men may come across as very protective. This is true, a woman likes it when her man can protect her from harm.

This kind of thing appears to be loved everywhere nowadays by women. It attracts the attention of the person and women feel more confident having him around. And girls love and want that. Behind every successful man is a wise woman. They are smart, wise, and know the solutions most of the time. A woman is proud of her man. Imagine her focus is only on you and you alone. Showing a man that you are proud of him makes him more confident in his life, he is more invested in you instead of his friends, he seems to have a craving for your words of motivation.

In life, there may be no next time anymore. So having traits like these may make a man happy, joyful, and feel better. Being truthful, honest, and not out of line is something we first think about when dating someone. Honesty is something a man wants from a woman.

If he is not confident about having you, is it really going to be a good relationship in the future? So, be honest, not out of line, and want the same honesty from the man. Everyone wants to be respected in their life.

Self-respect is also something that could change many things around you. It takes a lot to know a man and it takes a lot to know a woman too. Friends and family are part of our daily life. Knowing and having a person who wants the best for you and your friends and family is amazing.

A woman who make effort to understand and love your family as much as you do is really extraordinary. A man is always looking for a woman who could accept and could cope with her surroundings.

If you have stronger feelings, say that. Try to be tactful if you think you're response might hurt her feelings or disappoint her, but make sure your meaning is clear.

Not Helpful 5 Helpful Just be honest but not to heavy about it. Be confident, show you care and don't fidget with your shirt or bite your nails. Not Helpful 3 Helpful Answer honestly instead of giving false statements and telling who she really means will make her happy.

It's unfortunate, but it happens to everyone. Respond honestly. Why DO you like her? The more reasons you can elaborate, the better. Not Helpful 32 Helpful Let her think; don't push it. Don't rush her. If she likes you, she'll get back to it. If she doesn't, there's no need to try further. Not Helpful 10 Helpful If you fancy her, ask her instead, so she feels special.

Otherwise, just tell the truth. Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Try to practice sometime when you are alone. This way when she asks, it won't be out of the blue and you won't stand there stammering.

Helpful 1 Not Helpful 0. Feel free to ask her this question in return after you've answered it for yourself, of course. She may even have only asked the question in the first place just to get you to ask it back! Think about the reasons that you are dating her in the first place. Is it her sense of humor? Or maybe it's her ability to attract lots of friends. Be prepared. You don't want her to ask you tomorrow and you not have anything to say. She may ask you why you like her eyes or face or hair, etc.

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